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We've all had a bad year or so, people we know be it family or friends have gotten ill and passed. Thanks to global warming we've had fires, hurricanes, more than usual, went through hardships and job loss.
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ย ย ย ๐น๐ฆ๐ฅ, that does not mean you get to be an @$$ and treat everyone like crap. (hang on, I'm having trouble with my spellcheck)You don't get to yell, scream and complain to others and make their lives miserable too
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ย ย ย I cracked today, I'm sorry to say. All at once, it pulled me back to growing up with my family. Both my sister and father said the most horrible things to mom and I, and would come back an hour later wondering why we were so crushed, because, hey, when you're angry and hurting it's okay to say whatever you want...they're family/close friends and will forgive you. And when asked, or you say something, we are told, 'that's just the way I am, don't listen.'
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ย ย ย Let's put it another way, suppose you sat next to some man, and he kept poking pins in you. When you say something, he says, "oh, it's just how I am, don't mind it." You'd think he was crazy. It's the same thing, and it's abusive.
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I use to have a family member, one of my children that was really nice to everyone. It didn't matter how they were treated while they were out, they were nice and kind. But, then when they got home every bit of that frustration was taken out on me. It took me forever to stop this. The people we love and live with should be treated with love and kindness. Family is not a trash can for pent up and built up frustration.
that sounds a bit like my husband.ย Through the years he's not so bad, plus I put in for some help.ย Yes, I did a spell on my husband, something mild.ย I had to survive.
It has been crazy and there is no reason for abusive behavior, you are right.
Thank you.ย It bothers me more than it should, I know.ย But I don't deserve to be treated badly just because they are having a rough time.ย You want to come and vent, we can talk, I'll be there for support, always, but you don't use a bad mood/rough time in your life, etcย as an excuse to bully and scream at people.ย I've unfriended people on fb for this.ย 'She'd had a bad childhood, abusive parents"ย Well you are now in your 50's and it's not an excuse to treat others poorly.ย And yes, if I wasn't online, I would be saying this differently.ย ย
I try my best to focus on positive energy. life is hard for all, I dont need the fb problems as well.
I have groups I need to attend to there, and when Barbi passed last year(Kyst)I inherited hers too.
I hope things are getting better for you Linda. And I know you. You won't be disprespected long! You gotta put that person in check! :))
It was taken care of.ย I just get sick of it.ย It's an endless cycle.
ย It's hard right now. There aren't as many people that participate on the sites like there use to be so some have taken on the responsibility of what use to be. I was looking at my groups on my site and I was thinking to myself. "What are we all into and care about right now. What use to be is not all that we are into right now". I'm thinking of taking some of my groups off and kind of starting over with what I can. Our sites "are" like a gigantic Book of Shadows so to take off too much will take away from what's important but right now, not much is important to me. These past couple of years have seen to that.
I think in the winter, it will pick up again, when no one can go outside.ย That being said, I am 'gutting' many of my groups and starting over.ย And then just do a few discussions a month in each.ย I tend to do one discussion, and then after a couple of days, feature and share it.ย If I do more than one or two, then I stand the chance of no one reading all of them.ย then with every reply I try to get back to promote conversation.ย I've been doing this so long, it seems natural. Then, once every few months, if I want to attract attention to the group, I'll reprint a discussion onto the main page with the group link underneath.ย ย
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